
“So you say you want a resolution.
Well, you know. ..”
As I sit down at my computer, on this second day of 2011, it occurs to me that my recent quests in life have been for resolution. Whether it be for outstanding issues, both personal and public, or for clarity and definition in my photography.
2010 was a year to remember.
It was a year of transition, as they all seem to be now.
I transitioned to the other side of 55.
I transitioned from barely working to working quite a lot.
I no longer do thankless things that stand in the way of productive things. (I still do joyful and random beautiful things without concern for the consequences.)
I transitioned from shooting for the sake of it to shooting when the light is best.
I now see better, notwithstanding my declining ability to resolve with my eyes.
A lot of things I was told were true, but couldn’t relate to at the time, are proving to be just that. Quite true.
I find I still have a lot of my core values from the days of my earliest memories. Some of them are:
1: I enjoy the company of women better than that of men.
2: I enjoy the company of a vintage sports car better than that of a new car.
3: I still abide by the pledge I took as a Boy Scout, even though it may be somewhat sexist, and deferential to authority. (I do kind of disrespect those in authority “above us” however. Actions always speak louder than words, and whether it be in politics or religion … I never cease to be disappointed.)
4: I look for short cuts and efficiencies. Sometimes I spend productive time, spinning my wheels in pursuit of them though. Thankfully I am married to a very practical and direct woman who will see things through, confident that the way it was done last time, will see the thing done.
5: I think it never hurts to be generous with ones attention and interest. To try to help where possible and to just plain listen.
6: Never call your father in law a son-of-a bitch. This might seem like a good idea sometimes, but it really isn’t.
7: Also, when standing up to a bully, if you are 6 years old, don’t thrash him and make him cry. The girls around you won’t be impressed. It will only make the bully seem more sympathetic.
8: Always reach out to the friends you held dear but have lost touch with. They are still the same wonderful people even if they are now famous and well off or down and out.
9: Don’t give up on your family. They may not come around, but it comes with membership that they are entitled to your … consideration if nothing else. Even if they are Hitler. OK, maybe not Hitler.
10: Most things can be fixed. Everything can be broken.
11: Your faculties will go. Your spirit will not. Look for it in your elders. Try to see the young person they once were. It’s not very difficult most times.
12: Don’t write lists like this and think you are being profound. Do it to improve your typing skills, and do it to reach out and let others know they have touched you and made you what you are. And you are grateful. Or bitter. But easy on the bitterness. It’s not helpful.
2011 is going to be better than 2010, which was better than 2008-09.
It will be different. Don’t count on it being anything other than different.
Count on me though. Heather too.
-Tom